Are we not tired society , are our bones not weary? Even a king or a judge is tired of judging sometimes, how much more Society.
A lady is in her thirties walks into a shop, you happen to know her but your friend doesn't. She compliments her style from afar and you quickly retort. "Hey I know her , very intelligent nice woman , she is a manager at UBA bank but it's a pity she is not married". Who are you to judge? Who are you to condemn who is pitiful and what is not. Is it because you are married with kids and she is no? yet you pity her. You might be the one to be pitied because you might be in a loveless marriage and she is more than happy with her life .Must everyone be married to fit into Society's projection of double standards . Yet society sees you the married one, who might not be happy with your marriage, you cry and fight every week under the cover in the dark and clean your eyes in the morning and judge . Are we not tired of living deceitfully ? Of lying to ourselves ?
A lady walks into an eatery with a man,you are eating at another table , with your food in front of you . Yet you cast glances at them , trying to judge if they are single, or if she has a ring that shows she is married with a younger man that seems single . Or if the man is way older and the lady is younger . Then the devil starts using your mind to work wonders and judge them . Society are you not tired?
Do you know if the lady in question is a client or the man is a cousin? Do you know if the older man is an uncle or maybe just a friend. Whatever the case might be , even if it's the other way around , let's all learn to have an open mind.
Let's learn to give people the benefit of doubt, society it's time to mind our business. Let's learn to live with an open mind free of bias and prejudice.
If we decide to live above the suppose standards some prejudiced society has set, life will be much easier and happier .
Today my writing is not safe, I know I have written what must not be said, I might have stepped on some rigid toes , I might loose some ardent readers with this piece. Whatever the case might be I offer no apologies. If I don't write what must not be said outwardly who will? One way or the other we are all guilty ...
I do not owe anyone safe writing .
A lady is in her thirties walks into a shop, you happen to know her but your friend doesn't. She compliments her style from afar and you quickly retort. "Hey I know her , very intelligent nice woman , she is a manager at UBA bank but it's a pity she is not married". Who are you to judge? Who are you to condemn who is pitiful and what is not. Is it because you are married with kids and she is no? yet you pity her. You might be the one to be pitied because you might be in a loveless marriage and she is more than happy with her life .Must everyone be married to fit into Society's projection of double standards . Yet society sees you the married one, who might not be happy with your marriage, you cry and fight every week under the cover in the dark and clean your eyes in the morning and judge . Are we not tired of living deceitfully ? Of lying to ourselves ?
A lady walks into an eatery with a man,you are eating at another table , with your food in front of you . Yet you cast glances at them , trying to judge if they are single, or if she has a ring that shows she is married with a younger man that seems single . Or if the man is way older and the lady is younger . Then the devil starts using your mind to work wonders and judge them . Society are you not tired?
Do you know if the lady in question is a client or the man is a cousin? Do you know if the older man is an uncle or maybe just a friend. Whatever the case might be , even if it's the other way around , let's all learn to have an open mind.
Let's learn to give people the benefit of doubt, society it's time to mind our business. Let's learn to live with an open mind free of bias and prejudice.
If we decide to live above the suppose standards some prejudiced society has set, life will be much easier and happier .
Today my writing is not safe, I know I have written what must not be said, I might have stepped on some rigid toes , I might loose some ardent readers with this piece. Whatever the case might be I offer no apologies. If I don't write what must not be said outwardly who will? One way or the other we are all guilty ...
I do not owe anyone safe writing .
Nice one. We are all guilty of this one way or the other..giving people the benefit of doubt sure pays.
ReplyDeleteRecently, society seem to be the god, to which everything and everyone is measured against. Then one looks at the society, it has failed woefully failed. We need a God driven society rather than this deveil rotten one. We need not measure ourselves against society, we will never measure up. "Ketekete" by Ebenezer Obey says it well. Well said Ms Okereke.
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