Definition of being Classy in today's society !

I attended a baby shower over the weekend and this lady walks in, apparently i recognised her as someone i know and so did other girls beside me,Port-harcourt is a small town after all. I looked up to catch her gaze and wave in a friendly way to her for she was my senior in secondary school, but she just looked past us with a dead gaze. Her eyes showed she recognised us but her body language showed no recognition as she strutted past us like a peacock wearing heels.
I was in shock, cmon this is someone i wanted to greet but her cold gaze stopped me. I looked at her from the corner of my eye, from the shoes she wore to her gucci bag and said to myself obviously she feels she is too dressed and beautiful to acknowledge our presence .
The highlight of the day came when a lady who obviously didnt know her, came to the table I was sitting and tried to make small talk with other girls .she pointed at her and exclaimed " oh look at that beautiful lady she is so classy. I wanted to give her a knock on her head and say hey Aunty , do you know what classy means? I made it a point of contact to give her the link to my blog, so I know she will read this and she will learn .
These days many ladies and men attribute class to diffrent analogies. Some see a lady dressed up in expensive designer attires and say hey this lady oozes class, others see a lady walk into an event so proud she struts like a peacock with her head held high without turning to greet or acknowledge people as courtesy demands and say she is classy. The ladies see men with beautiful cars, nice shoes, over bloated ego's and braggy characters and exclaim ohhhh! he is classy. What is your definition of being classy. This is mine ....

CLASSY is when a woman has everything to brag about ; the perfect curves, the satiating looks , the seductive smile and a suffocating catwalk, and yet insists that any man that wants to date her, must first have a heart for God and be able to love her for her humble character not just for her looks, and be humble enough to acknowledge God in public

CLASSY - is when a man has all the money to brag about, the brains, a killer job, and the leverage to sleep with any woman he wants to, but yet insists that any wan who wants him must first have a heart for God and the ability to raise Godly kids, and be able even if she has done all her make -up kneel down with him on the floor and praise God.

ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS

Most times when we are abused we think it's only from the opposite sex , but friends abuse friends.
Today am referring to everyone who is directly involved In your life. He or she can be a friend, friendship between two ladies, friendship between a lady and a guy or friendship between two guys . We all have that friend who just calls or talks to you when they need you, or want something from you. Then after using you for the period to soothe their selfish needs they drop you.More like a parasitic relationship other than a symbiotic one.
Most times I write out of experience or stories I have heard,so I am gonna drop this here. I have this friend who for a long time has been in such abusive relationship. Each time she tries to get out, the call comes and she gets sucked back in. God in heaven knows the words he uses on her whenever he calls out of the blue to send her back Into his clutches. No matter the hurt she comes out from, she just keeps going back. I sit and listen to her tears of woe whenever she is hit or abused(mentally and wisely I don't say a word)I just comfort her . Until she finds herself and her true worth as a woman she can never be free.
One day after two long years of turmoil she stood up , tired of the mind games , tired of the sadistic charm, she took a step back and evaluated her life. On a Saturday with shaky hands she picked up her phone and sent a message to him ending whatever bound her to him,he laughed it out thinking It was one of those short breaks. Deep inside her she found herself, after a long period of not talking she heard he was getting getting married, I expected to see grief from her eyes but alas I saw relief. Relief that she was finally free and pity for the intended spouse.For she knew the poor lady would never know half of what she knew.
She saw the pre -wedding photo's recently and said to herself, thank God I am not in this position .Three weeks to his wedding the call comes again, but then he is dead to her. She looks at him and feels pity, feels triumph for she realises she is stronger and in a sick perverse way he also needs her .
But then he is dead to her, dead in the soul and dead in body. She can only wish him happiness in his journey forward with a new prey, with shaky hands she hangs up.( For those that can relate )

DECEMBER

      It's that time of the year, the festive part. The part that got everyone thinking about the new year resolutions they will make in a few days time .The resolutions they end up forgetting even before January has ended. It's that time of the year when boutiques and fashion outfits sell out and weddings and events try to outshine each other. It's that time of the year when salaries or earnings are being splurged on festivities. Money lenders and debtors have a field day pursuing one another for money must be spent.

    For me DECEMBER is the time of the year for reckoning ,a time I reflect on my journey through out this year. God's grace and mercy for keeping me from harm and sorrow. A time I reflect on the people I have encountered, the ones i have lost,the blessings , the loss, the joys, and decide if it was a Good year after all. A time I reflect on the end of friendships and the beginning of new one's. A time i tell myself the truth if i achieved all what i set out to achieve at the begining of this year?If 2016 would be as merciful as 2015 was to me ? If the coming year would be better or worse ? Alas if only I could see the future .
December for me is a month of reckoning and also the begining of a new dawn.

WHAT I ACHE FOR. ...

It doesn't interest me with what you do for a living or how old you are , or your circumstance, I want to know what u ache for?

I ache for the adventure of being alive, I ache for the joy untold that my best days are still ahead . I ache for a life I would be remembered for touching and impacting on people's lives. I ache for the joy of being remembered after death and my books and my writing lives on, inspiring people , students reading my literature.
I ache for my name to be remembered long after I am gone, not as a lovely girl, who took beautiful pictures,a model who lived a beautiful life.As a person that carved a niche, touched peoples lives and shaped her society in little ways. A person who stunned people with brilliance, a force to be reckoned with in my generation.I don't want to go out like a candle after living a long and beautiful life with my incense and smoke forever lost in thin air.
I ache for a life with children I can call mine and a beautiful family living in peace. I ache for a life free of turmoil and sadness, free of grief and coldness. The simple life is what I ache for.
Alas I ache for a better society, a society free of stagnation, free of war,corruption, fear, poverty etc. WHAT DO YOU ACHE FOR ?